Is the title of this post too aggressive? Maybe so. But there was a moment (okay like 57 moments) where I thought I would have to commit myself to the insane asylum and never talk to anyone ever again. I was mad at Brad, I was mad at my mom and grandmother, I was mad that I had to go to work at a time like this and I was mad at the birds in the sky for chirping too loudly. I hated any and every. thing. Why was I feeling like this you may be asking? Well, it was FOR ABSOLUTELY NO REASON. I was planning a wedding that was 9 months out. That was it. Women have babies in that time frame, certainly I could garner my sanity to plan one day.

My mom or grandmother would call and ask what they could do to help me out and I would say "Oh nothing, I'm fine." But I wasn't. I was drowning in what I felt was a never ending list of to-do's, but I wasn't asking for assistance on anything.  

Even though I had my little excel spreadsheet, our date set, an incredibly supportive fiance and family, I was trying to do EVERYTHING by myself (this must stem from being an only child. If all else fails, blame it on that, every time). Number 1 of the 8,472 self realizations I've had during this process: I have a VERY hard time asking for help. So, tip #1 - ask for help. This is one of those times people want to help you. Especially your mom and grandmother. Remember, this is a day they've been dreaming of too.

But, my HUGE realization came when Brad's mom casually said to me "You'll be married at the end of the day and that's all that matters."

Talk about hitting me like a ton. of. bricks. Why had this thought never crossed my mind? 

I had gotten so lost in the idea of what I thought a wedding was supposed to be, that I had forgotten why we were doing it in the first place.

We have been sold the idea that this is supposed to be the happiest time of our life, and while it is definitely one of the most exciting, I won't go straight to happy. There's stress over money and not wanting to be a burden to your family. There's stress over flowers and music and dresses and decorations and trying to make everyone happy (which is a whole other topic for me) and about a million other things. But what gets forgotten is what this WHOLE day is really about. It's about the two of you saying some very important words in front of some very important people and then dancing the night away, of course. 

But, in all seriousness,  if I give you anything, remember that most of what happens leading up to your wedding and on your big day, won't matter. I promise, no one will remember the flowers or the food or your spectacular entry table and perfectly curated table linens. None of the sleepless nights or countless stress filled days will matter. Your guests will remember what the day means, and that two pretty awesome people get to spend the rest of their lives together.